I need to figure out that people don't bite your head off if you talk to them. Seriously, I went to the elowel meetup yesterday, and the ENTIRE TIME, I either hid behind Ian or just isolated myself with him and Maxine...and Pocahontas for a while, too.
I don't even know why I'm like this. I'll see someone, and automatically avoid contact. Seriously, the only way I meet people, is through other people. I think there's only been two people (some random Mexican girl and Nick Woods...and she came up to me!) in my life who I've known first. Okay, I'm going through a list of friends:
-Elaine: Maxine
-Olivia: Elaine
-Layla: Olivia and Elaine
-Nick B.: Spencer
-Spencer: Nick Woods
-Ian: Nick Bayhi
-Lacey: Elaine
-Lisette: Elaine
Okay, I know everyone through Elaine...or something like that. Anyway, I need to open up or something. But it's really, really, really difficult.
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Friday, March 02, 2007
Disagree without being disagreeable...
...I find this to be one of the most amazing concepts. If I could even begin to describe how great things would be if the people of this world could just learn to do this, I would, but I can't. At least I can't still try.
One of the most self-defeating things people can do - yes, I am at fault here as well - is being too sensitive. Too many times have I seen someone say something contradictory to a fellow being, because they thought that the comment was directed at them. The fact of the matter is, and I know this sounds mean, you're not that important. When someone says something like, "I'm so glad I don't have to go to Church anymore!" they are NOT saying, "Church is stupid, no one should go to it. You're an idiot. Stop going to Church." It's just their opinion. Opinions, frankly, don't mean a thing. They're purely how someone thinks.
The problem comes when they try to enforce that opinion on you. This is when you become disagreeable. To be able to voice your opinion, speak your mind, and show people what you believe in is great. But when you let that affect how you treat people, that's where the turmoil begins. If you go up to someone and say, "Get away from me. You're gay...just go over there or something," OR "You shouldn't stop praying to your false God, he doesn't give a shit about you," that's just wrong.
Imagine a world where people were able to express themselves without shooting eachother down, or being shot down. Imagine a place where you could hear someone disagree with you, sing your own little tune, and go on without getting into a self-defeating argument. Those arguments singularilty lead to hurt feelings, or those of resentment. Now, I'm NOT, by any means, saying to stop debating. I'm simply saying that people should be more considerate.
God, I'm such an idealist...
One of the most self-defeating things people can do - yes, I am at fault here as well - is being too sensitive. Too many times have I seen someone say something contradictory to a fellow being, because they thought that the comment was directed at them. The fact of the matter is, and I know this sounds mean, you're not that important. When someone says something like, "I'm so glad I don't have to go to Church anymore!" they are NOT saying, "Church is stupid, no one should go to it. You're an idiot. Stop going to Church." It's just their opinion. Opinions, frankly, don't mean a thing. They're purely how someone thinks.
The problem comes when they try to enforce that opinion on you. This is when you become disagreeable. To be able to voice your opinion, speak your mind, and show people what you believe in is great. But when you let that affect how you treat people, that's where the turmoil begins. If you go up to someone and say, "Get away from me. You're gay...just go over there or something," OR "You shouldn't stop praying to your false God, he doesn't give a shit about you," that's just wrong.
Imagine a world where people were able to express themselves without shooting eachother down, or being shot down. Imagine a place where you could hear someone disagree with you, sing your own little tune, and go on without getting into a self-defeating argument. Those arguments singularilty lead to hurt feelings, or those of resentment. Now, I'm NOT, by any means, saying to stop debating. I'm simply saying that people should be more considerate.
God, I'm such an idealist...
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